By bonding to your past, you not only ensure that you'll be immobilized today, but you prevent yourself from healing...
In a universe that's an intelligent system with a divine creative force supporting it, there simply can be no accidents. As tough as it is to acknowledge, you had to go through what you went through in order to get to where you are today, and the evidence is that you did. Every spiritual advance that you will make in your life will very likely be preceded by some kind of fall or seeming disaster. Those dark times, accidents, illnesses, abuses, and broken dreams were ALL IN ORDER...
Practice living in the moment, and REFUSE to allow any thoughts based on your past to define you. Stop and take notice of all that's in your immediate space - the people, creatures, vegetation, cloud formations, building designs, everything. Stay in the present by meditating and getting closer to the ultimate now...God.
Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Don't allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are NECESSARY, otherwise they wouldn't be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act."
- Dr. Wayne Dyer
2013 limited edition mixed media on paper