The person who is "in love" has the illusion that his beloved is perfect.
We have been led to believe that if we are really in love, it will last forever. We will always have the wonderful feelings that we have at this moment. Nothing could ever come between us. Nothing will ever overcome our love for each other.
Eventually, however, we all descend from the clouds and plant our feet on earth again. Our eyes are opened, and we see the warts of the other person. We recognize that some of his/her personality traits are actually irritating. He/she has the capacity for hurt and anger, perhaps even harsh words and critical judgments. Those little traits that we overlooked when we were in love now become huge mountains.
Welcome to the real world...What happened to the "in love" experience?...The euphoria of the "in love" state gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship. We feel that we belong to each other. We believe we can conquer all problems..." - Gary Chapman
so my darlings, how long does the euphoric state of love last?
six months? nine months?
the romantic one year anniversary perhaps?
I have neither answers nor judgment, as every relationship is quite unique. What is essential is a strong foundation of friendship over time, built on mutual trust, respect and a great sense of humor.
